What if the crucial stages in life is the 20’s? Here are some tips to help you live the best of your 20’s.
- Have fun!!! Please, have some fun! Take road trips and vacations. Go to fun events and parties. Make new friends. Hang out with your old friends. Date. Dive into a favorite activity or hobby. Whatever is fun to you, be sure to make some time for it now! I know it sounds cliche, but if you’re like most of us out there, your life will likely become quite a bit more complex in the coming years and fun may get more difficult to come by. (Don’t let this scare you… you can still have fun no matter your age, it just takes a bit more planning and effort. Instead of traveling, exploring my interests, and generally enjoying life, I spent my 20s feeling sad and inadequate, and trying to fill the constant emptiness in my soul with food. I got myself into a very unhealthy place, physically and mentally, very early in adulthood.
- Develop healthy habits now! Find active activities you enjoy (hiking, walking, dancing, skating, biking, swimming, rock climbing, etc.) and partake regularly. Learn how to cook/prepare at least a few healthy meals. Drink lots of water. Experiment with meditation, yoga, prayer, tai chi, or something else that nourishes your spirit. Take a hard look at yourself, and the qualities you know are not to your benefit, and take real steps to change them. Try not to think of any of this as a chore… try to see that it’s one of the most important investments you can make in your future! It’s SO much easier to identify patterns that could be harmful, and experiment with what works for you health-wise, NOW, at your leisure, rather than being forced to change habits you’ve spent your whole life creating because of a health scare when you reach your 30s, 40s, 50s, etc.
- Spend some time getting to know yourself. Not “getting to know what is/has been expected of you”, but getting to know the REAL you. What makes your heart sing? What could you really do without? On a deeper level, what have you experienced thus far in life that hurts, and could continue to damage you if you don’t begin to take steps toward healing?
- To that regard, if you haven’t already, spend some time learning to love yourself. If you don’t truly love, respect, and value the beautiful collection of consciousness, experiences, and emotions that you are, you’ll find that you will not operate from a place of loving kindness toward yourself, and you may also find that you make (and repeat) choices that, at best, hinder your growth, and at worst, actively harm you.
- Spend quality time with your family and friends. I know it seems like you’ll have your whole life to do this, and I sincerely hope you do! But life can change in an instant, and I think carving out time for this now, regularly, is important.
- Explore! Not just geographically (do that too if you can), but mentally. Is there a skill you’d like to learn? Take a class on it! Is there a cause that moves you? Volunteer some of your time. Is something else REALLY calling to you? Go toward that thing and see where it leads you.
- If you have a passion as far as a career, start now. This will allow you to accumulate many years of experience, and you will enjoy those years as they pass because you’re doing something you love. (AND, if you think in your heart that you REALLY love something, and the thought of doing this every day for years makes you feel happy, go for it! Trust me — if you don’t, you’ll always wonder what could have been.)
- If you don’t have a passion as far as a career, it’s completely okay to get a job that sustains you and focus on other aspects of your life. You’ll still make friends and have valuable experiences, and you may even be led toward the next best step in life.
- Don’t feel like you have to have everything figured out right now, or that you need to have your whole future planned. This comes naturally to some people in their 20s… they’ve always had a goal, or a definite sense of where they wanted to go in life. If it doesn’t work this way for you, though, don’t stress yourself out! Do plan when you can, but don’t worry. The stress of worrying will cast a very dark shadow over your daily life, and may also restrict your flow of inspiration that will lead you toward your future.